Speeches are an inevitable part of a wedding reception and there is a lot of confusion on who should do a speech, what they should say and in what order. So, we thought we’d dismiss a few myths surrounding this and offer a few top tips on how to best put your pen to paper…
Who makes a speech?
Contrary to popular belief, the only person actually required to make a speech at the wedding is the best man. However, there are plenty of other potential speakers that couples often also invite to make a toast and traditionally, these include:
- The Father of the Bride
His toast would be to the new Mr and Mrs and usually include a few anecdotes about the bride when she was young, meeting the groom for the first time and offer best wishes.
The Groom toasts his wife, and thanks his groomsmen, bridesmaids and both sets of parents.
- The best man
The best man’s role really is to tell funny and (more often than not) embarrassing stories about the groom and brings a real element of fun to proceedings.
As more and more couples venture away from the traditional and really add their own stamp to their day, we are starting to see more speeches from;
- Groom’s parents
Who toast the uniting of the two families and welcome the bride into their own.
- Maid of Honour
If the maid of honour makes a speech, she will often toast the couple and the groomsmen (taking this role away from the Groom, and the best man will then toast the bridesmaids)
The bride would toast her new husband, her bridesmaids and both sets of parents as well as the guests for coming to their special day.
If both the Bride and Groom would like to make a speech, it can be really nice for them to speak together as a newly married couple! They can thank their guests, parents and bridal party and it can be a wonderful way to bring the speeches to a close.
If you do decide to have several speakers taking to the mic, you can stagger the speeches to In between courses of the wedding breakfast to really add an extra dimension to the day.
The order of speeches really is down to you. There is no set order that toasts should be made, so you can decide who you would like to speak, when. I would certainly suggest starting with the Brides farther or the Groom (if he is making a solo speech) and leave the best man until towards the end, only followed by the Bride and Groom, should they be making a joint toast.
However you decide to hold your toasts and whoever you ask to speak, I hope the speeches leave lasting memories for you and your guests to cherish.